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Sex-enhancers and marital rape

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NGONI sells airtime and pirated discs at a local shopping complex.
After a few minutes of conversing, Ngoni discloses that he also sells sex enhancers, especially for men.
V8 (Viagra), Osama which is used as an ointment, the ‘sex machine’ which is a capsule and the ‘blue diamond’, which Ngoni says can also be used by women, are also in stock.
And they are all going for US$5.
Ngoni says all these are safe as they increase sex drive and staying power during sexual performance.
This is despite the fact that the Medicines Control Authority of Zimbabwe (MCAZ) banned over-the-counter selling of sex-enhancing drugs on the basis of their side effects a few years ago.
Their distribution should now be accompanied by a medical doctor’s prescription.
Hence, people have taken the drugs to the streets while others are selling them in the form of herbs.
Most clients are older men, but Ngoni says even the younger men experiencing sexual problems come to buy in order to satisfy their partners.
And some women come to buy for their partners as well.
“Women can use the V8 which can be easily dissolved in water since it is a capsule and place it in their partner’s water, the man can just drink it and one will see the results in bed (sic),” Ngoni told Patriot Health.
“These women confess that their spouses at times get tired way too early and since such issues are not quite an open topic in the home, they find the solution secretly so as to elongate the act, enabling them to reach orgasm.”
However, problems arise when the ‘sober’ partner fails to meet the expectations of the one who has used sex-enhancers.
Partners will look for alternative sex elsewhere.
It could be just a commercial sex worker, a younger woman for the sugar daddies or a ‘Ben 10’ for the older women.
Through this promiscuity, they will be exposing themselves to multiple concurrent partners and if they do not use protection, the consequences could be dire.
In most cases they expose themselves to Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs), particularly HIV.
HIV can be contracted from infected blood, semen or vaginal fluids.
Most people get the virus by having unprotected sex with someone who has the virus.
Another common way of getting it is by sharing drug needles with someone who is infected with HIV.
The virus, in some cases, can also be passed from a mother to her baby during pregnancy, birth or breastfeeding.
Very few are quick to discuss their HIV status with their partners once they test positive.
Many a time, disclosure is difficult, especially in cases of promiscuity.
A person can go through Anti-Retro Viral Therapy (ART) without telling his/her spouse.
Stories are told of women who hide tablets in mealie meal or old bedroom jackets where the husband does not normally access.
Men are also said to hide their tablets in their office desks or certain compartments in their cars which are out of reach.
No wonder marriage has emerged as a haven for new HIV infections!
In 2015, the National AIDS Council (NAC) chief executive officer, Tapuwa Magure, disclosed that most new HIV infections were stemming from married couples.
“Findings have revealed that steady relationships, those married and those who have normal sex, contribute above 50 percent of new HIV infections,” Magure said.
In cases where the couple is discordant, there are reported cases of violence and marital rape.
An official from the Adult Rape Clinic recently revealed that most women who report to their offices for Post Exposure Prophylaxis (PeP) would have been raped by their spouses.
“Most women who come here will tell you that ‘my partner is HIV positive and we have been practising safe sex for a certain period, but yesterday he just changed and demanded that we should not use protection since we are husband and wife and unprotected sex is part of his conjugal rights’,” she said.
“And most men who come will have been gang-raped by women who are suspected of using juju.
“Once one comes within 72 hours, we administer treatment so as to reduce the risk of HIV transmission.”
However, such cases go unreported because it falls under marital rape and society has not yet quite embraced the issue of marital rape because marriage means unlimited access to one’s spouse.
Wikipedia defines marital rape, also called spousal rape, as ‘an act of sexual assault by an intimate partner’.
It can also be defined as non-consensual sex in which the perpetrator is the victim’s spouse.
As such, it is a form of partner rape, domestic violence or sexual abuse.
To one whose sex advances were spurned, it is a right denied, but to the ‘victim’ it is a case of marital rape.
In an interview with Patriot Health Chakafukidza Dzimba Matenga host, Mbuya Dorcas Chakoneka said culturally there is no term such as marital rape because the husband belongs to the wife and vice-versa.
However, in cases where force has been used, especially in cases where one has the intention to transmit the HIV virus, the law has to take its course.
“We always encourage couples to satisfy each other fully and avoid promiscuity,” said Mbuya Chakoneka.
“There are healthy herbs that can boost a couple’s sex life and we encourage them to seek treatment and counselling together as marriage is about trust and transparency.
“If one partner is HIV positive, they should practice safe sex and if one partner fails to adhere to what they would have agreed, then that person should face prosecution.”

1 COMMENT

  1. one thing buffles me; why are a number of news house allowing the publishment of half researched reports.

    https://www.newsday.co.zw/2013/11/15/hiv-herbal-remedy-zim-market/

    is it because they will be looking for fillers as they will not be having something worth communicating and printing time is up.

    may you kindly do you research on the difference arms in the ministry of health
    1. MCAZ – for pharmacueticals
    2. TMPC – for herbals

    there traditional medicines (which you refer to as herbals) has its own governing body is NEVER EVER governed by the MCAZ as its out of their scope; its just like saying ZIMRA enforcing criminal laws

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